As many of you know, I spent the last 30 days at Sierra Tucson – a residential treatment facility in Tucson, Arizona. I truly think this program saved my life, so I’m recording my thoughts and observations here in case anyone wants to know what residential treatment (rehab) is like.
Sierra Tucson treats mood disorders, addiction, trauma, chronic pain, and eating disorders. I’m sure there’s something I’m missing, because they cover quite a lot of stuff. And a part of the process is using your “titles”, or what you’re in treatment for, at the beginning of each group. It went a little something like this:
Hi, I’m Kelsey. I’m here for depression, borderline personality disorder, addiction and trauma. Today I’m feeling shame and sad. *pause for resounding “we support you”*
So from the very beginning, we’re reminded constantly of what we’re here for and working on. At first it was annoying: like telling someone fifteen times a day you’re gay. After a while, though, you begin to embrace and appreciate those titles. Those things make us who we are, and there’s no reason to be ashamed of them. Own what you’re working on! Fuck normalcy!
Anyways, our days were scheduled down to the minute most days. The less down time, the less time you have to think about depression or drinking alcohol or using or whatever your affliction may be. I appreciated those full schedules, and it’s going to be an adjustment not having one handed to me in the real world. Mom, where the hell is my schedule? What am I supposed to do from 6 am to 9 pm?!
Sierra Tucson offers a variety of different therapies to service its broad spectrum of patients. Everything from massage to EMDR to acupuncture to bioneuralfeedback (feel free to google some of these) were used as an integral part of treatment. They also offer group therapy 4 times a week, individual therapy, AA meetings, and residential therapists at your beck and call whenever you need them. It was a pretty sweet gig, honestly.
More important than the logistics of ST were the people. Everyone I met was struggling with something and no one tried to “be normal.” We all owned our shit and didn’t apologize – well, we tried not to apologize. The community was truly the most therapeutic part of the process, and I learned more from my peers than I ever could sitting in a lecture. I am indebted to them for life.
I learned a lot about myself at ST. To be brief, I’ll bullet a few of them here:
- Be as kind to yourself as you would be to others
- Everybody’s got their own shit, and no shit smells worse than anyone else’s
- I deserve happiness just by being alive
- Relationships won’t fix you
Those are the key points, I think.
I certainly had days where I hated being in rehab. I just wanted to talk on my phone, or kiss a boy that was cute, or not have a curfew as a damn 23 year old. But mostly the experience was extremely positive. I hope if you take nothing else from this post, you know I loved my time in rehab.
I implore any of you who are struggling to seek treatment – residential or not. Why? Because you deserve it. You deserve to be happy just for being you. And you are special. To me, to your loved ones, to the universe. You are special and you deserve to be happy and healthy.
Stay mighty,
Kelsey